Wedding Planning Tips - Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
While I know personal vows are not for everyone, I think the vows can be the most beautiful part of the wedding day. Here are a few helpful hints that may encourage you to take the plunge into writing your own vows!
Decide with your fiancé if you want to write your vows separately or together, and if you want to practice reading them beforehand together. Do you want to include some of the same things to promise to each other, or not? You can do some of the same and also include a couple of your own to personalize it.
Browse online to see what you think your style and structure will be. For example, do you want to be humorous, romantic, a mixture, etc. Refine your tone, but be yourself. Don't be afraid to mix and match things that you like to make your own style. Do you and your fiancé want to have a similar structure or do your own style?
Reflect on your relationship with your partner. Think about how you felt when you first met them, what about them made you fall in love with them, and when you knew that they were the one who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
You can also reflect on the harder times and challenges that you have been through together, and how you have handled them. Share how your partner helps in making things better. What do you admire and appreciate about them?
Keep in mind that a couple of your "promises" could be broad like "I will support you in hard times,". You can also include a couple of specific ones like "I will say goodnight every night before bed" or something more personal.
Make sure to only talk about things that everyone will understand, no inside jokes. Although this is an intimate and special part of the ceremony, you do have an audience watching
Keep length in mind. After you write it out and narrow things down, one or two minutes worth of vows is a nice length.
Practice, Practice, Practice! You don't have to have your vows memorized, but it ALWAYS helps to practice reading them out loud at least a couple of times before your big day. And it is helpful to practice looking up, as you will be looking up at your fiancé, while you read.
Type it up. When you have finished writing your vows, I would suggest typing them up so they are very easy to read on your wedding day. You may also want to invest in calligraphy vows. They make a wonderful keepsake.
We know that it is difficult to sum up everything that you love about your fiancé in just a couple of minutes, and to also sum up an unknown future lifelong relationship together. But, we hope that these tips prove to be helpful!